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Reviewing Hotel Review Sites

Hotel review sites are proof that one person’s paradise is another person’s hell.

The notion of hotel review sites is great in theory. They are an easy way  to figure out if those pretty pictures on the hotel website are a reflection of reality or a testament to the photographer’s ability. All you have to do is see what others are saying about the place, yes?

Pick the hotel with the best rating, and you’re good to go. Just look for the five stars or dots or houses or whatever system your site of choice uses and you’re golden. Until you check in and find that your awesome hotel is just awesomely wrong.

How to Review Hotel Review Sites

Not only have I heard this story, I’ve lived it. I learned the hard way that relying solely on how many stars a hotel gets is a bit of a gamble. So I came up with my own way to review the hotel review sites.

I call it the CAR method.

CAR stands for Content, Age and Response. The three things to look for when looking at a hotel review site. Remember these and you will have a better chance at staying at hotel that suits you. Like most “methods” it isn’t foolproof, but I can honestly say it works well for me.

Let me break it down for you.

Step One – Content

Oddly enough, content is often overlooked on hotel review sites. Most people look for the star rating and leave it at that. I like to go a little deeper.

First off, a five star review that either says nothing or is a sentence fragment is a red flag for me. Simply saying “Great Hotel” doesn’t give you much to go on.

Look at the reviews that actually talk about the hotel. What are people raving – or complaining – about?

Are the complaints things that you care about? I read a negative review that boiled down to the hotel not having an ice machine.

Take a good look at what people are saying in both positive and negative reviews. Look for the things that will bug or delight you and see what is being said. I don’t care about ice machines one little bit, but it was very important to the person who complained and it might be important to you.

Look for Specifics

Reviews that go into detail are gold when you are evaluating hotels. The reviewer talks about the quality of customer service, the cleanliness of the room and the general appearance of the place. There are details about the size of the bathroom, the comfort of the bed and whether or not the temperature controls really work.

I learn a lot from reviews like this. Hotel review sites that ask for more detail are my favorite. These sites give reviewers some guidance on what people are looking for. These sites ask for things like where the quieter rooms are, what kind of trip they were on, and how recently they were there.

If you are planning a family trip, you can quickly rule out a hotel that most reviewers are tagging as a party spot. Likewise, if you are looking for a romantic getaway you can rule out a hotel that is geared towards families with young children.

Step Two – Age

How old are the reviews? When I am on a hotel review site, I like to sort reviews by newest. This is important because things can change quickly in the hotel industry.

If the hotel you are looking out has an average rating of four stars, you might be tempted to think things are good. Look closely – if the most recent reviews are all low, maybe management or ownership changed and not for the better.

On the other side of that equation, the hotel may only have 2 stars but the most recent reviews are all glowing. You may have found an incredible bargain and a hidden gem.

I am generally wary of a hotel that hasn’t had a review in several months. Hotel review sites are too well-known and used for a hotel to go that long without a review.

Step Three – Response

Finally, I look for hotels that are paying attention. We are crowd-sourcing more and more information, especially in the travel realm. A hotel manager ignores what is being said about his or her property at their peril.

Are the negative reviews being addressed – and if so, how? What is the tone of the response? I have seen responses that are genuinely apologetic. Others come off as very snippy without addressing the problem.

A response that has an honest apology and indicates the manager is taking steps to make sure the problem doesn’t continue to arise is going to catch my attention. They should also be commenting on the middle of the road and positive reviews to some degree. A manager that is paying close attention to reviews will probably be paying close attention to what goes on in their property as well.

Putting it All Together

Using these three criteria for hotel review sites has worked well for me. I have found some gems and I have dodged some bullets. Mostly I have felt confident that I am placing a client, a friend, a family member or myself in a decent place.

I have found that the CAR method helps me make better sense of hotel review sites. It helps in wading through the information overload that these sites often are.

Finally – Be a Good Reviewer

Hotel review sites are only as good as the folks who use them. Your review will help others, just as the previous reviews helped you. Please take a few moments at the end of your stay or the end of your trip to write a review.

A good review doesn’t have to be lengthy, but do hit the highlights. A paragraph on what you liked, what you didn’t and why is gold. Feeling more generous? Call out the things that really stood out to you.

Above all, be fair in your reviews. This is especially true for a negative review. I like to give it 24 hours between writing it and posting it. Don’t be tempted to bad mouth everything in the hotel because one thing didn’t work or one person was rude. Point out the negative, certainly, but be fair.

Do you have a go-to travel tip to share? Hit the comments!

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The First Morning on the Road

First morning in Lyon

Early on the first morning in Lyon, France

It starts early for me, that first morning on the road. I think it’s the anticipation, the excitement, the feeling that anything is possible – anything at all. It is the feeling that all of it will be good.

Travel days, especially that first long trip from home to wherever, can be hectic and tiring and often frustrating. The crush of airports, queuing up in endless lines, trying to sleep upright in a narrow seat in a noisy plane, just to queue up yet again. Even with all the excitement of a new trip, I am not always the most patient person in the world.

Until that first morning waking up somewhere new.

The First Morning

I have always been an earlier riser. Holidays are no exception. Every minute is precious, because let’s face it, there is never enough vacation time. Most days that I am traveling, I am up and out of bed like a shot.

That first morning though? I let myself wake up slowly. As I come awake, I start to smile. I am waking up someplace new; I am waking up in a foreign land.

In that moment everything is exciting. Everything is ahead of me. It is Christmas morning, Easter, and my birthday all rolled into one. There is no end of exciting stuff waiting for me just out there.

Becoming a Temporary Local

Weekday  mornings are my favorite. I get the chance to really see what day to day life is like. In France it was the lines at the coffee shops or patisseries. On the Dalmatian coast of Croatia, it was watching the fishermen heading in with the morning’s catch. The rush hour of bike riders all zooming past was the hallmark of Amsterdam.

I like to see how people live. Sure, I’ll be heading to the museum or the church or the park later on, but in that early morning bustle I get a small taste of what it must be like to wake up here every day. For me it is a way of connecting to world because we all have our morning routines. Every place has a work-day rhythm that is similar, but slightly different.

Rick Steves has referred to becoming a ‘temporary local’ and I like the term. It is in those small moments of normality, from grabbing a cup of coffee to catching the bus that I get to be a local. In those moments it is far easier to see the similarities and far harder to be caught up in the differences,

Living in the Moment

Rain or shine, hot or cold, I find myself caught up in the “now.” All the hassles of getting there, all the concerns of what is going on at home are gone. In those moments, especially on that first morning, I am in the present in ways I am not at home.

Perhaps that is real magic of the first morning, the transformation from living way out in the future with deadlines and to do lists to living right now. The transition is breathtaking. The world takes on a different light, a different feel when you are living in the moment. Time can sometimes seem to stop, or at least slow down.

On that first morning, I feel a sort of lightness both physically and emotionally. Nothing is weighing me down; not the work issues or the family issues or my own inner back talk. I just get to be where I am.

Parsing the Magic

I have tried to break it down. Heck, I am trying to do so right now.

This I know – it is more than just being in a hotel. I have stayed in hotels in any number of places, but anyplace that isn’t here, my home country? The air is different, I am different.

I consider myself lucky; really and truly lucky; that I get that tingle, that happy, anticipatory jolt in each new town. I may have been in Paris yesterday, but today I am waking up in another new town. I get another first morning.

What I have decided to do is stop trying to figure it all out. The fact that it exists is really enough, when I think about it. Honestly, I assumed it would fade over time. A couple of trips and that magic would disappear.

Happily, that hasn’t happened.

The Gift that Keeps on Giving

The first morning is the best, yes, but the ones that follow it? They are pretty darn good too. Every day that I am living in the moment is a gift. .

It was one of the most unexpected parts about traveling. I was pretty sure that on that first morning of that first trip, I would be pretty excited. The reality easily surpassed the expectation.

Not only has it not worn off, it seems to follow me home now. I hear it in my voice when I talk about where I’ve been. It is there when I start planning the next trip. I’ve come to recognize when I talk to others about their travels.

The nicest thing that a travel client ever said to me was that she was more excited about her trip after talking about it to me. She said my enthusiasm was contagious. I’ll take that; I will hoard that like gold.

 

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Travel Expectations: Bucket Lists and Dream Trips

travel expectations - bucket lists

Bucket lists vs. to-do lists. The static vs. the dynamic.

Travel Expectations can destroy a perfectly good trip. Bucket list. Dream Trip. Trip of a Lifetime.  Places to see, things to do/eat/try before you die. We seem to put a lot of expectations on our vacations. No wonder so many of us feel slightly disappointed when we travel!

Bucket List?

I don’t have a bucket list.  The very name bothers me. A bucket list indicates that I have a set of tasks to do before I shuffle off this mortal coil. I don’t know about you, but I have more than enough deadlines and to-dos in my everyday life to add that element to my leisure time!

Bucket list also seems terribly static to me. I am far too changeable to list out every destination in order of desire and stick to it. At any given time I have a running list of ten to twenty places I want to go.

That list changes frequently. Articles, movies, recommendations from friends, even the setting of a book can strike my imagination, and the next thing I know, a new entry is added. Thus the bucket list concept feels like too much pressure. It also seems boring. I want the list to grow, not shrink.

If I die with 30 places on the list, that’s fine – as long as I was traveling along the way!

Trip of Lifetime or the Next Trip

Likewise, this notion that any vacation has to be a ‘trip of a lifetime’ seems a bit heavy. It seems like a lot of pressure to put on yourself.

As I have talked about before here, things go wrong on trips. I have a running joke that without fail the one thing I really, really want to see in a place will be undergoing renovation.

My first trip to Amsterdam, the Rijksmuseum was being renovated. In Prague, the Astronomical Clock in the Old Town Square was hidden beneath scaffolding and netting. If my trip of a lifetime included a visit to either of those places, it would have been devastating.

Every trip I take is simply my next trip. I am always excited to go. The thrill is in the being there at all; it is in the wonder that I live in an age where crossing an ocean is a matter of hours rather than weeks.

Each trip is a chance to learn something new, experience something unexpected and maybe meet someone new. That is the best possible outcome. Make no mistake – I am not lowering the bar, I am increasing my opportunity for surprise and delight. How can that be a bad thing?

Their List vs. Your Trip

Now we come to those lovely clickable lists that make me crazy. Places to see before you die. Talk about travel expectations! Take this trip and you can die happy; no pressure there.

My biggest problem here is that this is their list, the author’s list – it isn’t yours. While they are good for providing inspiration, they too often become a substitute for taking the trip you really want to take.

It goes beyond lists on the internet or magazine articles. Our friends can do this to us as well. They start putting their own travel expectations on to us. Let me give you an example from my own life.

Not Going to Barcelona

Travel Expectations, missing the aqueduct in Segovia

I would have missed this amazing aqueduct in Segovia if I had given up my itinerary.

I was planning a trip to Spain. While I was still sorting out my itinerary, I had loads of well-meaning friends and co-workers tell me that I absolutely had to go to Barcelona. As soon as I said Spain, they said Barcelona. No trip to Spain, apparently, was complete unless Barcelona was visited.

Over a matter of a few weeks, I found myself getting really irritated with my trip planning. Most of my trip planning time had been sucked up by researching Barcelona and I was far less excited about my trip than I had been at the start.

Fortunately, I have a lovely brother who asked the right question, where did I want to go? To my embarrassment, I realized that I didn’t want to go to Barcelona. This wasn’t the trip for that city. The reasons my friends gave me were good, they just weren’t my reasons.

In the end I went to Madrid, Valladolid and Segovia. It was a wonderful trip. It hit all my requirements. I learned new things, had some unexpected experiences and met some lovely people.

Like-to-See List

My list is a like-to-see list. It is not a to-do list, and it isn’t a bucket list. It is a living list that changes, grows, and adapts. This list allows me to change my mind or even to take advantage of unexpected situations.

If you read the post on Prague, you might have noted that trip was actually an opportunistic stop. My job took me to Krakow for a week of work, and so I took advantage of that to add a stop in Prague that was amazing.

The more you travel, the more you will grow and gain confidence. Suddenly that entry on your bucket list isn’t that interesting. You may discover that your reasons for putting a place on the list are no longer compelling.

Travel Expectations

Let me say it again. There is no perfect destination and there is no perfect trip. Trips should bring joy and surprise rather than bitterness and disappointment.

The best thing you can do for your vacation, and your sanity, is to not put so much weight on it. Aim for lots of great trips, not one trip of a lifetime; you will end up with a treasure trove of once in a lifetime experiences.

Not every trip I have taken has been fabulous. There are some spectacular missteps that I can recall. When I look back on my travels, moments of irritation, evenings of homesickness and loneliness, and even a couple of fairly unpleasant travel companions come to mind.

However, in all of the situations I just listed, there are also some lovely memories.

Bottom line – travel is a very personal experience. Go where you want to go, go on your own terms and keep your travel expectations realistic. Your trip won’t be perfect, but it will be yours and it will be memorable.

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Going Solo – Women and Solo Travel Over 40

Solo Travel and the Road less traveled

Solo Travel – the road can be daunting on your own, but that shouldn’t stop you from exploring.

Solo travel, taking a trip by yourself, can be daunting. Especially if you are a woman; maybe more so if you are a woman of a certain age.

So do you give up on travel because you’re female, over 40 and might have to go by yourself? The answer is no, not hardly. In fact, you go forth and conquer!

Our Travel Histories

I hear a familiar story from a lot of women who have always wanted to travel. When they were young, they didn’t have the money, so they couldn’t go.

Later on, when they were establishing their careers and had the money there were other things to spend it on. They were buying homes, paying for braces for their children, and saving for retirement. Not to mention they never had the time between family commitments and work!

Once the kids were grown and there was time and money, they looked to friends as travel companions. Except now it was vacations schedules that never really synced, or disagreement on where to go.

The only option was going alone, and for most of these women that wasn’t really an option!

What Stops Us?

I understand the hesitation; I understand the anxiety about going solo when you reach mid-life and beyond.

At twenty you’re invincible – immortal even. When you are thirty, you can claim the confidence and self-assurance that life has thrown at you. We hit forty and we start to wonder if it’s too late because we aren’t twenty any more.

And so it goes every decade; heck, every year brings another set of reasons why we shouldn’t take that trip.

We become the prisoners of our own anxieties at some point. There are worries about mobility or illness. Concerns about safety creep in. Then there are all the well-meaning friends and relatives who feed those fears. It’s a vicious circle.

A week ago I talked about some sstrategies for dealing with travel anxiety. It’s worth a read if you are letting your fears hold you back.

The Challenges of Solo Travel

Once you get over the underlying anxiety, there is a new set of challenges to face. Isn’t there always?

Dining solo was perhaps one of the hardest things for me. Sitting in a restaurant, by myself, eating a meal; nothing about that was appealing to me. I had this vision of sitting in a dark corner, staring at a wall and hoping that the waiter even remembered I was there.

A friend of mine was daunted by foreign languages. She was positive that she would be lost and alone, unable to communicate and secretly sure that everyone was laughing at her.

Eating, transportation, language and more can be a bit harder for the first time solo traveler. The good news is that there are strategies to getting through those first bumbling attempts. The better news is that once you have, you feel invincible.

For me, having a notebook to write in makes dining alone not just bearable, but easy. I love sitting down to a meal and recording my thoughts on the day. The simple action of writing keeps me centered and happy.

Heading to the Travel/Tourist Information (TI) booth at your arrival airport will help you with lots of challenges from understanding local transportation to getting tips on places to see. Most TI locations have staff that speak English, and who are really invested in your experience.

The Advantages of Solo Travel

Let’s talk about the up side of solo travel.

My favorite thing about traveling on my own is that I don’t have to constantly re-negotiate my trip. I get to decide what I want to see and do and eat without having to worry about a travel companion’s likes or dislikes.

Most of us can relate to that trip that went sideways because our travel companion is a picky eater, hates art or only wants to shop. I have my own experiences with people who need to have a specific itinerary and are unwilling to change anything.

Another advantage is the number of people I have met. Traveling with a friend gives you a baked in conversation partner, so it is unlikely that you will strike up a conversation with someone on the train or in a restaurant.

I have met some very interesting people this way; folks who I probably wouldn’t have chatted with had I been with friend. Not that I am indiscriminate in who I talk to, but that’s another benefit of solo travel, you develop a pretty good radar very quickly.

In fact, solo travel has made me a better listener, and as a result I have heard some amazing stories. I learned that people want to tell their story, and all I have to do is let them. These stories are some of the best mementos of my solo travel adventures.

Believe in Yourself – You’ve Earned It

Sure, we may not be twenty anymore, but the majority of us have learned a thing or two along the way to where we are! We have a confidence that has been honed over a couple of decades of being female in this world. If anyone knows how to take care of ourselves, it is us; because we have been taking care of ourselves – and others – for quite a while now.

We have earned the right to have a few adventures. After spending so much time and energy spent just getting here, don’t you think you deserve that dream trip? I know I do – I think you’ve earned it.

Bottom line, age doesn’t have to be a barrier any more than gender does. A sense of adventure, curiosity about the world, the desire to learn and grow – these don’t have a sell-by date; so get off the shelf and go, even if it means going solo.

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Life in a Fairy Tale – Prague

Prague is the town you picture when you read a fairy tale. The last thing I expected was to step into a fairy tale of my very own.

Sure, friends had been telling me to go, that I would like it. They talked about the architecture, waxed poetic about the history, and more than one slyly mentioned how affordable it really was. Oh, and there was also the beer. They always mentioned the beer.

Prague was on the list, sure, but it isn’t exactly the easiest place to get to from Portland, Oregon. Honestly, few places are, but Prague was a particular challenge requiring at least two changes of plane and the real possibility of a long layover. So Prague stayed on the list, a wistful sigh in the asterisk I mentally had placed next to it.

Jumping at A Chance

A business trip to Krakow, Poland turned the asterisk into a check box. It was, after all, close by; at least in the way that San Diego is close to Las Vegas – about 5 hours by car. I am a West Coast American, and such distances are eminently reasonable in our oddly shaped view.

A little research led me to a train between the two cities, and I do love a good train ride. The train ride turned out to be an early morning bus to the town of Bohumín, just across the Czech border, and then a train to Prague.

I arrived late afternoon, tired from a week of work stress and in desperate need of new travels. I hauled my rolling bag from the train station through the wet and cold streets of Prague (did I mention that it was January? It was January) to my hotel on the edge of the Old Town.

Even in that state, as exhausted as I was, I had a feeling about this city. There is an energy that is undeniable. Maybe it is the trams, maybe it is the ubiquitous coffee shops I passed, but the place seems to hum.

Prague in Snow

Morning broke with a dusting of snow, being kept firmly in place by the confetti flakes that continued to fall off and on throughout the morning. Prague is a beautiful place where you feel as though you have stepped back in time. The snow turned it all into something from an Eastern European fairy tale, and at any moment you expected an ornate carriage drawn by a team of elegant horses to emerge from a side street.

By afternoon the clouds had given way to brilliant sunshine and the place seemed to sparkle. History is everywhere. People are also everywhere. It seems it doesn’t matter the time of year; there will always be crowds in Prague. Even on a snowy weekend in January.

It was a perfect day to just wander. Wander through the Old Town Square, wander into churches or stores or coffee shops, wander down side streets, just wander wherever my interests might take me. This is one of the great joys of solo travel. You get to go where you wish, without negotiating with a travel partner about how we might miss this museum or that tour. Wandering, as a result, is high on my list of things to do when I stumble upon a place that calls for it.

Feast for the Eyes

St. Nicholas Bell Tower, Prague

Spires and Wedding Cakes, Prague is a feast for the eyes – St. Nicholas Bell tower looms up over an architectural wedding cake.

Prague is a storybook city, with sherbet-colored buildings set next to architectural wedding cakes and medieval spires; statues and pillars, towers and bridges, and of course a castle. Because it can’t be a storybook city without a castle.

All the best cities have castles, I think. Krakow has one, Edinburgh, Dublin, Hvar, Segovia – yep, all the best places have castles.

My wanderings led me, finally, across the famed Charles Bridge. It was a cold day to cross the river, the wind that blew across was nicely frigid and yet I don’t think any of us who were out and about (which felt like ALL of us) cared. Prague was the belle of the ball and we all wanted to be next to her.

The next day was a workday Monday in Prague. The hordes of tourists were either sleeping in (given the availability of clubs in this city, it is not a leap to imagine that), or on to the next city, or perhaps even back to work themselves.

Encounter on the Charles Bridge

This was the day to visit the castle. Crossing the Charles Bridge again that morning bordered on the theatrical. Dodging the dog walkers and the remaining tourists and the usual suspects of people heading too or fro from work or the shops or errands, I stumbled forward bumping into an elegant gentleman who may or may not have been a priest.

He was something out of central casting for Eastern European Enigma – graying temples accenting jet black hair, swept back; long black wool cape that sort of swirled as he walked, and a tendency to stop at each statue on the bridge to explain its significance to his companion, often with emphatic arm gestures. He swept me bow of apology without missing a beat as I stumbled backwards and stammered.

This is not something that happens anywhere else, but of course it would in a place like Prague.

Coffee and Writers

Before the hill climb to the castle, I stopped for coffee and croissant in, of all places, a Starbucks. This building once housed a cafe where literary luminaries such as Jan Neruda used to hang out. Now it is populated by tourists, serious-looking young people with computers and that morning it even had a solo traveler from the States who still couldn’t quite believe she was there.

Fortified by strong coffee and a decent apple pastry, it was time to gird myself for the ascent to the Castle. It is a bit of a breathless climb as steps and steps and steps seem to never end. I found myself stopping at intersections, broader expanses that allowed me to catch my breath, turn around and be presented with unbelievable vistas.

New World Street

New World Street in the Castle District

New World Street in the Castle District.

On the advice of a friend, I detoured past the Castle, heading down a curving lane looking for New World Street – Nový svět. Once again I had stepped back in time. This little cobbled street seems like it is on the very edge of the city. Narrow, and quiet, one side is buildings, the other seems to be forest, but it is a park.

The buildings are bright yellows and reds with lots of decoration around the windows and alongside the doors.

On one a large brass plate told me that Tycho de Brahe once lived there. Tycho de Brahe, a famous Danish mathematician and astronomer lived in this house in the early 1600’s.

I thought of my Dad, the grandson of a Danish Immigrant and I had to smile. Dad had passed away just a few months before, and this discovery felt like a little Easter egg left for me by this city.

Prague Castle

Back at the Castle, I splurged on the extra charge to take the English language tour of St. Vitus. A lovely woman led our little group and she did an amazing job. I learned, for example, that the church is both old and new. It was started in 1344 and finished 600 years later. Six hundred years to finish one building.

In between start and finish, Holy Roman Emperors and Bohemian Kings have been laid to rest there. There are coats of arms and a royal box, there are ornate elevated pulpits, and there is the most over- the-top and curiously beautiful tomb I have ever seen.

This is the tomb of St. John Nepomuk, and it is awash in angels, covered in silver and even has a sculpted canopy. I learned that the statue I kept seeing of a man with a halo of stars is St. John. He is found everywhere in Prague, from the Charles Bridge to various church yards.

I also learned that this church is not heated. It was a bitterly cold day and we were all hunched into our coats, but the stories were fascinating so we tried our best to ignore it. By the time I was done touring the Castle, I was cold and tired – and yet I found myself walking back to my hotel on the edge of the Old Town (the far edge from the Castle as it turns out). It was unthinkable to miss this walk across the city.

A Taste of Prague

That evening I found the website for “Taste of Prague” tours and was instantly intrigued. Food, for me, is the downside of solo travel. While I long ago got past any qualms about dining alone, I am notoriously bad at making food decisions on my own –  to wit, I had ended up at Starbucks in a city known for coffee shops.

I had one day left and so I dropped them an email to see if there was an opening. Within minutes I had secured a spot on the “Prague Foodie Tour” the next evening. The reservation came with the warning that I should come hungry.

I took them at their word and met the group the following evening. The tour started with a brief history of food in the region. Prague was once part of the Austro-Hungarian Empire, with all that such a regal history implies.

The cuisine of that era reflected the breadth and depth of that empire. Influences from Vienna, Budapest, Dubrovnik (itself once part of the Venetian realm), and really all of Central and Eastern Europe, could be found in the food. Dainty open-faced sandwiches, hearty goulashes, and decadent pastries were common.

Time Travel with Food

Lobby of Mysak Pastry shop

Lobby of Mysak – stepping inside means stepping back in time.

A small group of us, along with our guide Martin. started outside a gorgeous building, a confection of a place in rose and gray. It stands out on the street with its fanciful pilasters, showy granite panels framing the doors, and the flirty arches over the roof gables. This was the home of Mysak, a café that started life as a bakery. This is one of the finest examples of the unique Cubist architecture that is found only in the Czech Republic.

Stepping inside Mysak felt like stepping back to the Golden Age of Vienna. From the chandelier in the lobby to the elegant dining room upstairs, everything spoke to me of a long-ago era.

I was no longer a middle-aged woman from Portland; I was an aristocrat in the early 1900s having dinner with friends.

Waiters in period clothing – white shirts, black vests, bow ties, and long, knee-length aprons – brought us each a beautiful plate with an open-faced prawn sandwich and a “venecek,” a choux pastry with vanilla cream and sugar glaze.

The venecek puts an éclair to shame, to be honest; and like the café itself, the food was a work of art. It was easy to picture the scene in the early part of the 20th century, gracious gentlemen and lovely ladies having a civilized meal and stimulating conversation.

Common Cookbooks

Martin gave us a little history lesson about life under Communist rule. I discovered that my notion of having everything regulated by the government never touched on having everything regulated, even something as common as a restaurant or cafe.

Martin explained that there were four categories of restaurant “allowed” during this time. Category I was the luxury category, IV was the fast food equivalent. Worse still, each category had a common cookbook of recipes to draw from, so each menu was pretty much the same. Even the weight of each portion was regulated.

This meant that after the fall of communism, the food culture had to be rebuilt. I began to understand why no one who had raved about Prague had raved about the food. Until fairly recently there wasn’t a lot of food to rave about. I wondered if they didn’t know what they were missing.

History Along the Way

After a brief stop in Wenceslas Square to learn a bit about the Velvet Revolution (the jingling of key chains to tell the Russians it was time for them to go home, may possibly be the most polite demonstration ever), we took a detour through the main post office.

This beautiful building was once an apothecary, complete with botanical garden of healing plants. The garden still exists, as do some murals; and yet it is also a bustling post office. It is stunning, both in the scale of the building and the art work that remains.

Then it was time for more food. This time at the spacious Kantyna at the edge of the New Town; a combination butcher shop and restaurant. The entrance is the butcher shop with a beautiful display case. The evening was moving into the European dinner hour, and it was obvious that many of the people in the lobby area were picking up something to take home for dinner.

Kantyna has an interesting setup. When you arrive and are shown to your seat – or in our case, the large communal marble top table in the middle of a central room – you are given a slip of paper. What you order, when you order, is marked down on this ticket. You can order from the case and have your choice cooked to order, there is a hot buffet with prepared dishes, and a well stocked bar.

From there it was on to a beer hall called Lokal to drink like real Czechs – which means Pilsner Urquell in large quantities. This was chased with schnitzel, more latkes, and fermented cheese. Yes, fermented cheese.

Karlin District

Gin and tonic at Eska

Gin and Tonic at Eska – cocktail as salad

The next stop was in the up and coming Karlin District. A short tram ride took us to this once industrial area that is now home to quirky boutique hotels, hip restaurants and cozy bars.

We finished the evening at a Scandinavian inspired restaurant called Eska. It is Czech comfort food brought into the modern world. A gin and tonic that was half cocktail, half salad was one of the highlights – even the gin is made on site. This Portland foodie was in heaven by the time we were done.

Breaking the Spell

On the short tram ride back to my hotel I thought about all the little things. The jazz band in the square playing Sweet Georgia Brown, the little design shop where I bought a notebook and pencils for a friend, the Military Church I stumbled upon.

In the morning I was headed to Amsterdam, and then back home. It felt all the world to me like this had been a farewell dinner spent with good friends. I didn’t want the evening to end; I didn’t want this visit to end. Sleep was not something I sought that night, staying awake seemed the only way to delay the inevitable.

Finally, I hauled my bags to the waiting cab and distracted myself by taking in everything outside the window as we drove. At the airport I found a quiet corner where I waited for my flight to be called. To my surprise, I found that I was fighting back tears. I didn’t want to leave this place.

I had lived in a fairy tale for a few days in this magical city – of course I never wanted it to end.

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Travel Anxiety is Sneaky

Santa Maria la Antigua, Valladolid Spain

Don’t let travel anxiety keep you from views like this. (The Santa Maria la Antigua, Valladolid, Spain)

Travel anxiety isn’t just sneaky, it actively kills dreams.  Seems pretty dire, doesn’t it? Like it is this mythical beast wielding a sword, ready to strike down your dream of Paris or London or Buenos Aires – or wherever.

I hear this sort of thing a lot from women. The sentence always begins with “I’ve always wanted to go to…. and ends with but I’m afraid of….”

It is the second set of dots that are the trip us up because we fill them in with phrases that make us anxious. We list out all the things that scare us, everything that gets our hearts racing.

All the things on that list have one thing in common, they are all  just ways of saying “I’m afraid something bad will happen.”

You’re Not Alone!

I understand travel anxiety. I clearly remember my first trip – that wonderful trip to London. My flight left San Diego at 10:35pm, connecting through JFK.

Honestly? I nearly didn’t get on that plane. I paced the hallways of the San Diego Airport for nearly an hour because I couldn’t sit down. I called my brother – twice – to keep myself calm.

When I got to JFK, I nearly broke down in tears

Getting to the Roots of Travel Anxiety

Anxiety tends to creep in when we are faced with the unknown. It makes sense that we would get anxious about going to a foreign country! The currency is different. People speak a different language. The food is different. Besides, we’ve never been there, so everything is going to be strange!

It is small wonder that so many of us battle some form of travel anxiety. I still battle it, and the more ‘new things’ to contend with, the more I run into it.

What If?

Some of us start going through the what ifs.

What if the hotel is awful, or they lose my reservation or are overbooked?

What if I get lost or sick or injured?

What if my luggage is lost, or my flight is cancelled or the plane crashes?

Not only do the possibilities play out in your head, they escalate. The cycle starts with something as benign as lost luggage and ends in a fiery crash.

Next thing you know, that wonderful trip to that wonderful place is put back in the box, because what if has made it untenable. We’ve gone from what if my luggage gets lost to what if I die in a fiery crash.

Problems vs. Crises

There are a lot of statistics to soothe our travel anxiety. Bags getting lost are rare (even though it doesn’t feel that way sometimes). Plane crashes are even more rare. Crime in tourist areas of most major tourist destinations is generally petty crime, and even then, rare!

Sounds great, but it doesn’t help. We have taken a problem – what if I lose my luggage (or something similarly small) and turned it into a crisis –  what if the plane crashes! (or something similarly large). Once we are in crisis mode, all bets are off.

This is a useful distinction – at least for me. I can solve a problem. A crisis is a whole other matter – it generally means we are in some sort of imminent danger.

There will be problems that arise when you travel. It is inevitable. I can’t promise you nothing will go wrong. You will forget the toothpaste, you might turn down a wrong road. and you could discover that the pictures on the hotel website are markedly nicer than the room you are presented with.

All of these are problems that are easily solved; you can get toothpaste, you can pull out a map, you can ask for a different room (or go to a different hotel).

Rarely are you going to be in a true crisis situation, and if you are, there will be people to help.

Tools to Help

I ask the question “is this a crisis or a problem,” which sounds simple, but it is a huge help. I define crisis as someone’s life is in real and imminent danger. This is something I learned from my brother who wrote a blog about fighting anxiety

Unpack what’s causing you to ramp up. I am not a great flyer; I know this. Every single time I take a trip, I start ‘what if-ing’ about plane crash scenarios. If I look at what is really making me anxious, it is just that very primal anxiety around going somewhere new.

Live in the moment rather than out in the future. Spending lots of time creating worst-case scenarios of things that might happen at some indefinite point in the future is going to kill your trip before it ever starts.

Avoid the Negative

Take a news vacation; limit the amount of time you spend listening to news reports – especially ones about wherever you are going. Be informed without being overloaded.

Seek out people who have been where you are going and ask for advice on what to see and do. Being armed with a few insider tips makes the place seem less daunting. Not only will it help relieve your fears, you will build the excitement about the trip.

Steer clear of the naysayers and the folks who are thrilled to tell you that their best friend’s cousin’s girlfriend’s hairdresser went to the exact same place you’re going, and lost a limb in the process.

For severe anxiety, talk to a therapist; seek out professional help to unpack the anxiety and find the tools that will help you cope.

Breathe

I get that it can be scary. Travel anxiety is a sneaky bastard; it is one of the minions of the comfort zone. A sneaky demon that wants very much to keep you from seeing the world. Know that a lot of seasoned travelers have fought it and even still fight it; if you fight it head on, it will get easier over time. So breathe in and out, then do it again. Keep doing that until you find yourself in that city you’ve always wanted to see.

I promise you, the battle is well worth the rewards.

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Travel Maven, The Journey Begins

Welcome to Travel Maven!

I love the word “Maven,” it has an interesting range of definition. It can mean either one who is experienced or knowledgable; or it can mean freak.

When it comes to travel, I fall into both categories. I am an experienced traveler, but I am also a travel freak. I am a Travel Maven in all senses of the word!

While I was always crazy about travel, about going or learning or being interested in places that weren’t ‘here’ (wherever here was at the moment) I never really traveled until I was forty. Until then, I just sat and listened enviously as other people talked about the places they had been or the places they were going.

Me? I had been to Canada when I was in the third grade. I had taken a cruise to the Caribbean when I was in my 30’s. They were fun trips, and they whetted my appetite, but I have to say, spending a day in a port city is worlds away from the kind of travel I wanted to do.

Like so many people I know, I had dreams of London and Paris, dreams of Munich and Amsterdam, dreams of Rome and Madrid. So yes, St. Martin was lovely (and I had been to Nevis before Hamilton was on stage…), it wasn’t the travel I longed for.

First “Real” Trip

I love travel

Travel Maven in the making – me on my first trip abroad; amazed to be in Paris, amazed to be anywhere at all

My first real trip abroad – the one that was really all mine – where I  took that leap, – that happened just after my 40th birthday. It was a modest itinerary – London and Paris, but it was my dream.

That first trip was hard. Getting on that plane for that trip to London was scary in so many ways. I was going someplace far away, a truly foreign country.

I went by myself and I remember feeling so unprepared for it. This is despite scanning every website related to London that I could find, despite spending hours in the library and at various bookstores reading tons of guide books.

The funny thing is that when I look back on that trip, it was both really a mixed bag of experiences. It wasn’t perfect by any stretch of the imagination. I did a lot of stuff wrong. I had some moments that should have really put me off  travel.

Instead travel became somewhat of an obsession. I couldn’t wait for the next trip. I was planning that trip as I was on my way home!

Souvenirs

I know I came back with more confidence. I came back with a somewhat different outlook on life. That trip challenged and thrilled me. It helped me grow in ways I never expected. I was exhilarated in that way you are when you get off a thrill ride.

A year later I was on my second trip – this time to Brussels, Brugge and Amsterdam. I took the lessons I had learned and did a better job of planning. I took that new-found confidence and pushed some boundaries on my comfort zone.

It wasn’t a perfect trip. either. Things went wrong, and I had some obstacles thrown in my way yet again. After many, many trips I have learned that obstacles are part of the adventure. Some are large, most are not, but all of them have been gifts.

Every obstacle has taught me strength and resilience, introduced me to some lovely people and taught me that I wasn’t as helpless or small or scared as I thought myself.

Women and Travel

It also got me thinking about women and travel. Specifically why more of us, especially over 40, don’t travel more.

Too often I hear women talking about how they have always wanted to go somewhere, then immediately list the reasons why they can’t.

Those reasons come down to three basic things – travel is too scary, too difficult, too lonely.  The last is especially true for those who are thinking about a solo trip (or have had it mentioned as way to travel to that dream destination).

I am not overly brave or adventurous, and I am a noted introvert.  I can promise you that travel doesn’t have to be scary, it doesn’t have to be hard, and even when you travel solo? It doesn’t have to be lonely.  I am living proof!

There is a lot of bad advice out there. Most of it is geared towards women. It makes me crazy. My goal is to debunk that advice and maybe make travel just a bit less scary or difficult or lonely.

Why Travel Maven?

Well, here I am, mumble mumble years later, a  bona fide travel maven. A knowledgeable freak about all things travel. I want to help others find and release their own maven – the travel freak that has lived frustratingly in the shadows for far too long. I want to share the lessons I have learned, some of the adventures I have had, and the tricks and tips I have picked up along the way.

My hope is that this little blog might inspire others to take that first trip, to see the world and learn how strong, brave and capable they really are. It may be just that one trip, or it may be a whole constellation of trips.

I hope you will feel free to ask questions in the comments or share your own stories (hopes, dreams, and travel plans).

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